Embrace the awkwardness.
Asking for things like more (or less) oral sex, or requesting to add toys for extra stimulation can make some of us shy or embarrassed.Look at it this way: Feeling uncomfortable for 15 minutes is worth it if it leads to a better sex life in the long run.
If it’s a sensitive subject — like you want your partner to last longer — be compassionate.
There’s no room for acting entitled, combative,condescending, or bratty. Try to be supportive. If you approach it like you’re in this together, you’ll get through it together.
You have to believe in your request and know that it’s okay to ask for it. This is really important, because when you’re secure in your desires and authentic about what you want, you are empowered. And, empowerment will help you ask for things and get them.
Have your birth control ready to go.
We’re pretty sure you’re going to get what you want, so make sure you’re covered when the fun starts.